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Sunday, 01 June 2008
Is this a legitimate outlet for my sexual tensions?Question:

I have heard that if you can't control the urge to masturbate, or to have relations with your wife when she is in her menstrual period, it is halachically OK to go to a gentile prostitute. Is this true? Without any permissible outlet, I'm at the computer and adult sites. What can I do?

Answer:

It is hard to find a serious rabbi who will agree with this very unwise solution of a prostitute.

Sexual relations with a non-Jew is one of the 3 things that drive G-d's Presence (the Shechinah) from the world. The first is violating the laws of family purity by having sexual relations with a woman considered a niddah, who has not purified herself from her menstrual period.

The second category is the man who has sexual relations with a gentile woman, as the Zohar explains:

For he inserts the holy Brit and the sign that upholds the world into a foreign realm, as is written, "For Yehuda has profaned the holiness of the L-rd whom he loved, and has taken to himself the daughter of a strange god," (Malachi, 2:11.) For we have learned that the Holy One Blessed Be He has no zealousness, except for His

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Make no mistake: relations with a non-Jew is like bowing to idols
zealousness over the holy Brit (proper sexual behavior), for this Brit is the secret of the Sacred Name and the secret of faith. As is written, "And the people began to commit harlotry with the daughters of Moav," (Bamidbar, 25:1) then, immediately afterward, "And the anger of the L-rd was kindled against Israel." He who enters this holiness into a foreign realm (i.e. has relations with a non-Jewish woman) transgresses the prohibition, "Thou shall have no other gods before Me...thou shall not bow down to them, nor worship them; for I the L-rd thy G-d am a zealous G-d," (Shemot, 20:3.) For it is all the same zealousness (bowing down to a foreign god and bowing down to have relations with a gentile woman are considered the same).

For this reason, the Shechinah flees from such a person. Being false to the holy Brit which is stamped on a man's flesh, is like being false to the Name of G-d. For whoever is false to the seal of the King is being false to the King himself. He has no portion in the G-d of Israel, unless through the power of a constant (great) repentance.... (See Zohar, Shemot 3b on this site in Zohar Passages).

Therefore, our advice is, try filling your free time with meaningful endeavor. Sit in a yeshiva study hall and do some learning. Or do some volunteer work in a hospital or old age home. By engaging in acts of kindness, a person awakens the attribute of kindness (chesed) in the spiritual worlds, and this is a very great rectification. And download an anti-porn filter for your computer TODAY and let your wife pick the code and keep it hidden from you.

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