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Can you tell me about the halachic status of sex/energy pills? I see them for sale in the gas stations. Can I buy them? If the capsule is gelatin, I can use kosher vegetable ones and put the powder in it. I ejaculate too quickly and I want it to last. Is Viagra ok to use? How about pills that are advertised. Can i purchase them by mail order, or do I have to worry about the kashrus? I am doing something wrong by doing something to enhance my pleasure? Also, can my wife and I sit naked in a hotel room, and walk around like that, and do doggy style in the shower?

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Question: Don’t you think that over-emphasizing sex is making a mountain out of a mole hill?

Answer: They scoffed at Noach too! They ridiculed him. They laughed. No one paid any attention to his warnings. For 120 years, he worked on building the ark, so that people would pass by and ask what he was doing, giving them a chance to repent.

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I am married but I also have some homosexual desires. I know someone who does too. Are we allowed to be unclothed before each other and hug and feel as long as we don’t spill any semen in vain (motzie zera)?

Also, my wife and I like to do different positions – standing, sitting, doggy style etc. Is that forbidden? Can my wife and I watch porn to enhance our sexual pleasure? Can a man watch porn alone if he will have relations later on that night? Thank you.

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I fail to understand the great sin in looking at sexy pictures on the Internet. It doesn't make me do anything evil. I don't masturbate when I watch. I just enjoy seeing pictures of beautiful women.

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My work entails many searches through Google pictures. Photos of immodest women invariably pop up, and I find it impossible to avoid gazing at these. Any advice?

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In your answer regarding leaving the Land of Israel to visit the graves of Tzaddikim, you made it clear that the number one place for a Jew to live is in the Land of Israel. But what about a Jew who was born and lives in the Diaspora? Does he have a Torah obligation to make Aliyah and move to Israel?

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I have heard a lot about Tikun Hatzot, but I am not sure what it is? Can anyone say it, or it just something for mystics?

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I am a newly married man.  What holy thoughts should I have in mind during relations with my wife? What images or pictures or visions should I be thinking about? Can these holy thoughts, images, pictures, or visions bring me pleasure? Also,  what can married men do to stay happy and satisfied during the niddah period (about 12 days) when the wife is prohibited? Thirdly, I find the mitzvah of bringing pleasure to my wife before relations to be very, very hard work. My hands and fingers often become tired and I need to stop.  Is there a way for me to find more pleasure and satisfaction during this particular phase of marital relations?

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The boy I'm dating for half a year told me yesterday of the filtering system he set up on his computer to prevent him seeing things he shouldn't. I asked him straight out if he goes into sites that are inappropriate and he said he tries not to. I got off the phone and wanted to cry.

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I am a 25 year old yeshivah student. I have been clean from masturbation for about 2 years. (In the past I was very doing it almost every day.) I just started dating and find myself getting an erection from just spending time with and speaking to a girl. Help! What is wrong with me? Is it physical? Is it leftover addiction from my fantasy days? It's driving me crazy, what do I do? Please help me.

I am a 25 year old yeshiva student. I have been clean from masturbation for about 2 years. (In the past I was very doing it almost every day.) I just started dating and find myself getting an erection from just spending time with and speaking to a girl. Help! What is wrong with me? Is it physical? Is it leftover addiction from my fantasy days? It's driving me crazy, what do I do? Please help me.

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I am a student in college, and if I were to practice the recommendations on your site, like avoiding pre-marital sex, I would be the odd man out on campus. I am far from being religious and transferring to a yeshiva. What's a guy to do?

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