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Pretty Woman PDF Print E-mail
Written by Michael   
Sunday, 17 November 2013

Question:

I am not suggesting that your Torah sources are in error, but it seems to me that you have exaggerated with all of your fire and brimstone warnings. I can see a movie, or see sexy pics on the Intrnet, go to a crowded beach, or spend a day with a pretty woman and never experience a wet dream or the desire to masturbate. I am sure this is true for most men, not only me.

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Chofetz Chaim on Tikun HaBrit PDF Print E-mail
Written by Chofetz Chaim   
Sunday, 17 November 2013
Question:
You seem to emphasize a Kabbalistic approach to “Tikun HaBrit.” What’s a more mainstream approach to the issue?
Answer:
In answer to your question, we will quote from the writings of the Chofetz Chaim who compiled the halachic compendium, the “Mishna Berurah.” He indicates that the principle rectification for Tikun HaBrit is through the study of Torah:
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How Important is the Wife's Pleasure PDF Print E-mail
Written by Tzvi Fishman   
Sunday, 17 November 2013

Question:

I have heard that a husband should try to give his wife pleasure.  Does that mean to make her have an orgasm orto just be sensitive to her needs without necessarily bringing her to orgasm? Withus, it can take ages before my wife feels relaxed enough to enjoy things. Canthe husband massage her organ with his fingers in order to give her pleasure?Also, sometimes I notice a that a drop of clear fluid comes out of my membereven before relations begin, as if it is some kind of natural lubricant. Isthis considered like the spilling of semen in vain?

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I Failed Again! PDF Print E-mail
Written by Tzvi Fishman   
Sunday, 17 November 2013
Question:
I have been struggling with masturbation for some time. 3 months ago I did heartfelt Tshuva and did not sin since. However, slowly over the past 3 months I would occasionally gaze at improper websites (again), but still stayed in “check”...Unfortunately, last night I sinned...
Last Updated ( Sunday, 17 November 2013 )
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Google Girl Gazing PDF Print E-mail
Written by Tzvi Fishman   
Tuesday, 05 November 2013

Question:

My work entails many searches through Google pictures. Photos of immodest women invariably pop up, and I find it impossible to avoid gazing at these. Any advice?

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They Scoffed at Noach Too! PDF Print E-mail
Written by Tzvi Fishman   
Saturday, 05 October 2013

Question: Don’t you think that over-emphasizing sex is making a mountain out of a mole hill?

Answer: They scoffed at Noach too! They ridiculed him. They laughed. No one paid any attention to his warnings. For 120 years, he worked on building the ark, so that people would pass by and ask what he was doing, giving them a chance to repent.

Last Updated ( Saturday, 05 October 2013 )
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I'm Going Whacky! PDF Print E-mail
Written by Tzvi Fishman   
Tuesday, 11 June 2013

I’m Going Whacky!
QUESTION:
I am married and have children and consider myself very religious.  I learn every day, daven every day, teach Torah classes, and lead a pretty frum life.  However I can't stop thinking about sex. 

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Can I Ever Be Forgiven? PDF Print E-mail
Written by Michael   
Friday, 26 April 2013

Question:

Just this one more time...I am 22-year-old baal t'shuva (returnee to religious lifestyle). I was not raised very religious, and early on I was exposed to pornography and sexually impure images. Over time I became obsessed with pornography, and later, during my teens, when the internet started to become popular, I quickly became addicted to internet porn.

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What's Wrong With A Little Pornography? PDF Print E-mail
Written by Michael   
Tuesday, 22 January 2013

Question:

I fail to understand the great sin in looking at sexy pictures on the Internet. It doesn't make me do anything evil. I don't masturbate when I watch. I just enjoy seeing pictures of beautiful women.

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With Us, Everything Goes PDF Print E-mail
Written by Tzvi Fishman   
Sunday, 23 December 2012

QUESTION:
I am married but I also have some homosexual desires. I know someone who does too. Are we allowed to be unclothed before each other and hug and feel as long as we don’t spill any semen in vain (motzie zera)?

Also, my wife and I like to do different positions – standing, sitting, doggy style etc. Is that forbidden? Can my wife and I watch porn to enhance our sexual pleasure? Can a man watch porn alone if he will have relations later on that night? Thank you.

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Sexual Frenzy PDF Print E-mail
Written by Michael   
Sunday, 23 December 2012
Question:

I can't stop thinking about them. Free my mind!
Hard to concentrate, huh?
I am a 30-year-old baal teshuva [returnee to ritual observance], religious now for about three years, living in Jerusalem.  I have been dating a lot, but have not yet found the one. I lived in California for most of my life, and mostly all I saw were women wearing not very much clothing.  For the last 6 months, the only thing that has been on my mind is women and sex. My learning has tanked heavily - I can barely sit still. I work 10-12 hours a day and try to learn for at least 4.  What is the best way for me to get my mind out of this sexual frenzy going on in my head?

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My Eyes Made Me Do It PDF Print E-mail
Written by Michael   
Sunday, 23 December 2012
Question:

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Just this one last time...
Can you explain the commandment not to stray after your hearts and after your eyes? What kind of things are forbidden?

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Where Are the Rabbis? PDF Print E-mail
Written by Michael   
Thursday, 08 November 2012

Question:

As a woman living in a modern Orthodox community, I have a question. If immodesty and suggestive clothing is such a terrible thing, why don't we hear rabbis constantly warning about its dangers? I have never heard the rabbi at our shul address the issue at all.

Last Updated ( Thursday, 08 November 2012 )
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It Was an Itsy Bitsy, Teeny Weeny, Yellow Polka Dot Bikini PDF Print E-mail
Written by Tzvi Fishman   
Friday, 19 October 2012

Question:

It happened again! For the last four months I’ve been clean – no porn on the Internet, no m@sturb@ting, studying Torah as much as I can, exercise, going out with friends, anything to prevent me from being alone with the computer. Then I lost everything.

Last Updated ( Friday, 19 October 2012 )
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Facebook Dating PDF Print E-mail
Written by Tzvi Fishman   
Wednesday, 10 October 2012

Question:
I have a big problem. At the moment I am looking to date. One girl was suggested and I looked her up on Facebook to see her profile and her pictures. The more I looked the more I began to see her in a much more sexual way. I gazed and gazed and then when I went to the bathroom, my underwear had semen in it. How do I do proper Teshuva? I have stopped porn and masturbating but this is still a big problem. Is this considered spilling seed like masturbating? If so, what do I do to rectify this and truly do shidduchim the proper way?

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Sexual Gymnastics PDF Print E-mail
Written by Michael   
Wednesday, 10 October 2012
Question:
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Gymnastics in intimacy turns worlds upside down
If a man can control himself and not "spill seed" when engaging in different positions or when engaging in oral sex, why are they forbidden?
Last Updated ( Wednesday, 10 October 2012 )
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Keys to Joyful Lovemaking PDF Print E-mail
Written by Michael   
Wednesday, 10 October 2012
Question:

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In other words: the birds and the bees, if you please
This website highlights the religious obligation of a man to please his wife and make sure she is sexually satisfied. On the other hand, you add so many restrictions (no oral sex, woman on bottom) that it doesn't seem likely for the woman to reach orgasm. Please explain.

Last Updated ( Wednesday, 10 October 2012 )
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My Wife Prefers Daytime PDF Print E-mail
Written by Michael   
Wednesday, 10 October 2012
Question:

My wife is usually too tired to have marital relations at night. She prefers the morning, after sending the kids off to school, when she feels more refreshed and uninhibited. Is this OK?

Last Updated ( Wednesday, 10 October 2012 )
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