I can't help feeling we're getting off-topic and hope that the moderator might redirect the discussion to a different forum - after all, this place is "for women only" and we seem to have taken it over, albeit with an important discussion.

But I must reply.
My father z"l was a wonderful psychiatrist, a true doctor of the soul. My brother is a psychiatrist. My sister has 2 PhDs and works in psychology. I'm a physician.

The rabbis I knew who needed help would shy away from psychiatrists for the very reason you mention - because they thought the doctor makes it all better, that you feel better and then you won't pray to Hashem for help and guidance. What a crock!

Of course it's up to us. Read the 12-Step program. It starts with "I have a problem and I can't deal with it alone." We need help in order to deal with the problem, but that doesn't mean the work isn't up to us. I can't pay somebody to say Kaddish for my father.

A few hours ago I took my first step and admitted that I need help. Then I downloaded the porn blocker for both my computers. Then I woke up my wife (it was 01:30 a.m.) and told her about it and asked her forgiveness for "having another woman." She knew about it already and forgave me on the spot. What a gal.

Today I'm sitting in front of what used to be my companion (the keyboard and screen) with exactly the same feelings of yesterday - how nice it would be to masturbate and reduce some of the tension I feel. But this morning I feel a little bit different, a little more "in control" and a little more reluctant to give that away, to give in again. I hope that this feeling will last all day and then I'll have "done" one day of my life without giving in. Tomorrow the struggle starts anew.

Isn't that what Pornaholics is all about?

To return to "For Women Only," I don't know what I'd have done if my wife had gotten angry, had screamed "I knew it! Get out of my bed!" or had woken up this morning and refused to enter the blocking codes on the antiporn software.

But she didn't. She wants to help. She wants her husband back and she wants me to help to raise our children together in truth, not with secrets attached. If we're going to talk about Kabbalists and tikunim, let's also talk about the fellow who went to the kabbalist, but he said he went together with his wife, his support and "ezer k'negdo." Dear wife, may you be blessed forever for that support, and may us guys not ever, ever forget that.