You may want to try out whitelisted email service, like Yeshivanet. You can find them at
www.yeshivanet.com or call them at (718)937-4482. It will be hard to go from full internet service to something so strict and limited, but hey - that's the point! Also, this way your wife doesn't have to be involved, which is what you said she wants. Hatzlacha!
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